With valentine’s day just around the corner i thought i would write about how MrS and i met and became a husband and wife.
We had been friends for a couple of years as i met him though his x that was a few year below me in school. We had always got on and had a lot in common ( and secretly i really like him 😉) but never thought he would feel the same and as i was in a relationship nothing would happen anyway.
At the end of 2010 i go be out that my x was having an affair and after all the years on emotional/mental abuse i had had enough and asked him to leave he ashored me it was a mistake and it was over (witch it wasn’t) by early summer 2011 it was the final straw and said if he didn’t leave i would pack up at me and the kids would move away from the area. So he left and i moved on as a single mum of 3 i had such a great network of family and friends we where so happy.
I had been with my x since i was 14 and he was very controlling so i was finally free to be my own person. In this time MrS and his then partner had split.
In october 2011 i went out with a girlfriend to a local pub and in walks MrS with a few mutual friends so we all got chatting and playing games of pool and having a great time. After than for the next few weeks we kept in touch chatting online and the phone and as he worked near my house he would pop along for a coffee at break and lunch. It quickly became apparent the feelings i had for him where still there and as it turned out he had felt the same all that time too. Birthday party as dorothy and the scarecrowsJust a few weeks after our engagement
He was great with the kids he gave them the time of day he would sit and play and chat with them, they never got that from there dad and they loved it. One night after being out we where waking home chatting away and we both just turned to each other and said the three little words “I LOVE YOU” After that this moved fast and on december 10th he got down on one knee and i said “YES” All out family’s where super happy and we set a date for 10th of August 2012.
Planning the wedding was fab everything fell into place like it was ment to be. I woke up on the morning of the wedding with a wee bit of panic because of my dad adding extra guests at the last minute and i wasn’t sure if the venue had been notified, but after that moment past things went great the morning was just like i had imagined. I will always remember this photo being taking that is an old couple in the distance that just happened to be standing there at the time. It almost feels like its was to symbolising us in the future.
As i stood waiting to walk down the aisle i was shaking from pure excitement or from the lack of oxygen getting to my legs after my dad fasting me in to my dress. As i walked towards him with a warm smile on his face i felt safe like know one could ever hurt me again. Our day was magical life was perfect. A few days later we headed of to Lanzarote’s Puerto del Carmen for a week of sun, sea and newlywed bliss. My flip flops & sunglasses
Sunday morning was a blur of kids fighting over the cereal and milk getting ready for a family walk.https://www.visitmoffat.co.uk/things-to-see/grey-mares-tail
My brother-in-law was up from teeside so we instead of laying about doing nothing with our sunday we wrapped up and headed of for a walk up the UKs 5th highest waterfall Grey Mare’s Tail and what a adventure we had the littlest little walked up at least 3/4 of the way before getting a wee bit of help from daddy.
The weather was dry with snow on the hill tops very pictures perfect, as we walked up the mist come in but soon as we walked around the corner at the top the sun came out just like something from a movie it was breathtaking and it might sound typical, but the first word we all said was “WOW”The sun came out at just the right time Breathtaking view
As i stood on the bank of the loch breathing in the fresh air a moment of peace fell over me and for just that minute i felt like the only one on top of that hill. Everything made sense the things that’s been spinning around my head stop and things fell into place. The people in my life that keep letting me down, that’s never there, that don’t take the time to see how we are. Even though we are family doesn’t mean i have to keep them in mine or my children’s life we have plenty of family we can rely on.
So with this new sense of peace we will move forward with our life and plans for the future with no upset and heartache.
As we set off back down the hill MrS have the call of macdonalds so why not! with all that work climbing the hill it couldn’t hurt.
Arrived back home in time for bath, supper and bed that was welcomed by us all no argument. (Best nights sleep for a while) the littlest slept right though to 10am and was ready for bed at tea time on monday. This might just have to be a regular family activity.
To round our sunday up it was a fabulous day enjoyed by us all and i have learned that it’s not just negative thoughts i need to let go of but negative people and once i had done this life felt easier.
As for the waterfall it’s a must see absolutely stunning.
Mr S and I have always said we wanted to extend our family, we put these plans on hold when my son Charlie fell ill as we wanted to dedicate our time to charlie’s care and helping our other three cope with the ins and outs of having a sick sibling.My four baby’s
Almost two years after losing charlie we have decided to go ahead with our baby plans with a start date for ttc after our summer holiday this year or maybe ever a holiday baby, but this raises the question. Is it the right time? When is it right? How do we know? Not that it should matter, but I can’t help but think what other people will think.
My mum and dad went thought the same loss 4 months before they conceived me. Understandability everyone is different when it comes to this decision, it doesn’t mean that your still not grieving or that you are trying to replace your much loved child.
Now we have made the decision, how will we feel when baby is on the way, this I suppose is something we can’t answer until the time and it’s scary it’s shouldn’t matter what other people think but after spending all my young adult life in a controlling abusive relationship I still find it hard not to question every decision I make.
With all these questions we might never know the answer and am sure we are not the only couple that has been here and I would like to think I could help someone in this same decision by laying my heart on the line because it’s not often talked about.
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Well first post here it goes, why not let you get to know me better am 29 i love all things makeup
I also have two cats smudge and leia and currently have 4 kittens one of whom we are keeping and have named him yoda (can you tell i live with a star wars fan).
I love food and enjoy cooking and baking, music, singing and restoring our home
We are at present doing up our home that we purchased in september 2015 it was very out dated but fell in love with it on viewing, it had a pink bathroom suite yes! PINK the kitchen was all sorts of brown and a pink and red hallway we have updated them areas and this week we are having our old windows replaced with new double glazed ones and we are all very excited no more single glazing!